Husband writes to us for wife who became a Brahma Kumari and follows the Shrimat. She shares to move away from relationship. Baba does not say this. It is Shiv baba's shrimat to stay with loukik family and study this Godly knowledge (murli) and follow the shrimat as much as possible.
Original Email Received on 2 Jan 2019
I want to reach out to Brahma Kumari’s to seek help for keeping my life together.
My wife is trying to follow the path of “Shri-mat”, and for doing that she has decided to move out of our relationship. I don’t understand if this is the right path (to leave family and home) for her to follow.
I have listened to Murali and other bk teachers regularly but I don’t think brahma Kumari’s suggest that one should leave their household to follow Shiv baba's shrimat.
I am sure brahma Kumaris does not teach anyone to leave their responsibilities and life. I am not sure what is the right path. But it does not feel right to me that she should denounce married life to live a “pure” life.
Please let me know if it is possible for someone at BrahmaKumari’s to guide us in the right path.
Our Email Response
From: Prajapita BrahmaKumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay (Godly Spiritual University)
To: Ashish and family
May we ask you to read this email to your wife and hope they will understand the real meaning of what is Shrimat.
Shrimat of Shiv baba (our Supreme father) is to remain Pure (celibacy), while staying in the family life and take this Gyan and do Purusharth of Yaad and self-transformation. This is the most beneficial advise of the highest of the high father, Shiv baba.
Rest, if you can stay pure and follow the shrimat and benefit yourself and your loukik family, while staying in family life, you should. But if it becomes hard, or if there is a lot of opposition, only then you should think to stay at Baba's centre.
Baba's direction is to stay with your family. The reason is - We all have a Karmic account with our family members. In this last birth, we must finish all those accounts so that liberation is achieved without sorrow. This is a path of Karma-Yog. Baba empowers us children to remain in a Yogyukt stage while doing necessary activities (karma).
You can do anything you love to, - do a job, go outside for a picnic with family, and fulfill all your responsibilities. But in your mind, you always remember that ''I belong to the One who is our most beloved spiritual father. He has come and became our teacher and teaches us the knowledge of creation and the creator. I am God's child.''
The RIGHT PATH is the path of 'Balance'. Here is audio from us on topic Balance in Shrimat and Family life. Must listen: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GtU_kLXMoxNf5cdUjTB4jGNmTChtJLhp/view
Shrimat is - "To remain pure and to do Purusharth of Yog, always to listen the murli and if possible, do the service of giving the message of Shiv baba and his coming and give the light of Sakaash to the souls in need." This is also a 'responsibility' of us God's direct children.
Godly student is one who daily studies the Gyan Murli and do the 'dharna' in practical life. They become divine with divine virtues (there are 7 virtues of soul)
Also the good reason baba asks us, children, to stay with our loukik family is -- This is an opportunity to do service to loukik family members, to give them Gyaan and make their fortune also. If there is any difficulty in staying with loukik family, then use the power of Yog to overcome the problem. When we souls connect to the powerhouse (the Supreme Soul/Shiv baba), we emerge our inner 8 powers. (refer: 8 powers of Soul)
So you should accept this challenge that you can become an obedient Godly child and Godly student while staying at loukik home.
By the way, myself also live with loukik family and most of the BK (Brahma Kumar/Kumari) also live at their loukik homes.
Everyone has a responsibility to fulfil. How can God tell us to leave all our responsibilities? God is a perfect being, and he has come to make us 'perfect'. To become a perfect soul, one will have to face all kind of challenges. Remember that God, our most beloved spiritual father is now with us. Shiv baba guided us in Murli everyday. Just follow what is said in Murli. Rest all things are meaningless.
So dear sister, you should do Dharna of Gyaan.
Make a notebook and write down important points from today's murli so that you can always 'revise' those points. Also, writing down main points will help in your Purusharth.
Hope the letter helps you and your family.
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