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Health of the family has always been a major concern for most of us. This is a guidance to a sister who shares regarding her daughters illness and depression, feeling helpless and left alone in times of need. She also wishes to know how to stay strong and not get affected by people's behavior. This is our advise on how to cope up with similar situations, overcome loneliness and find peace. Original Message/Email Received in Aug 2020 Good evening , Om shanti. I am just saddened by so many little things. I have been constantly trying to listen to videos for guidance. Distressed about my daughters health issues , autism , hyperactivity and depression. People around me. My friends have let me down. They have used me. Betrayed me. Hurt me. Completely changed their behavior. I am just so fed up. I wish I was not affected by people. Can you please show me a way for peace. Email Response + Guidance Divine Sister, I would ask you to immediately consult a psychiatrist for your daughter if her situation is serious. Because sometimes when brain is low on certain chemicals such disorders arise and which can be treated with medicines. And moreover along with Medicine, Meditation will work great for her. So ask her to sit in silence and start meditating. You seem to be in a better condition, but still when the mind is weak , we are easily disturbed and affected by someone`s behavior. The solution is to Empower the Mind. How do we do that ? ➤ Answer Mind is like a small child. It has certain needs , demands and cravings too. Now you need to take care of this child with love. Give it what it actually needs but not everything it demands or crave for. Discipline it. So next time whenever your Mind is crying like a child next time tell him with love " No my dear child, they cannot hurt me , it is me who is taking their words seriously" . Also we need to understand that if the appreciation uplifts us their criticism will destroy us. So we should not be attached to someone's perspective about us. And start meditating seriously to gain extraordinary results. Meditation is something that has overtaken this generation as a mandatory routine in the life of most of the people. It is helping the souls around the world to transform themselves into a being of Pure Love, Purity, Bliss and Power. We at the Brahma Kumaris practice Raj Yoga Meditation daily and radiate the vibrations of Peace , Purity and Love for all the worldly souls. Raj Yoga Meditation is simple and an easy to do meditation which can be practiced anywhere and anytime. It is full of Spiritual Wisdom about the subjects like Soul, God, Cycle of World, Secrets of Self transformation etc. which shall definitely help you both to transform yourselves. ◈ Sharing a few important links below. Please do follow them for the best results:- Video ➣ Raj Yoga Meditation : BK Sister Jayanti Article ➣ Raj Yoga Meditation - 7 Days Course online Video ➣ Stop getting affected by Other people : BK Shivani Video ➣ Empower the Mind : BK Shivani Video ➣ One thought to finish Depression : BK Shivani ⍟ Thank You! ⍟ -- On Godly World Service The 'Shiv Baba Service Initiative' team BKGSU

Most of the times, our belief system directs us to understand Relationships by labels, making us Role conscious. Spirituality explains to go by Soul Consciousness, making it easier to have mutual respect and regard for people as they are, a Human BEING. Here is our advise to a brother who wishes to develop a pure Brother-Sister relationship and get rid of the negative thoughts/feelings he gets throughout the day. Original Message/Email Received in Nov 2020 I am having sisterly feelings with one of my female colleagues. I do imagine her face while affirming to our Brother Sister relationship. But I am facing a problem of the insecurity of losing her. While affirming I visualize about us having a pure Brother Sister relationship. But the rest of the day I get negative feelings about her and the relationship. Will having negative feelings impact my affirmation. How to get away with this negative feeling and continue with the positive feeling of the brother sister relationship and make the relationship happen. Please help me to get rid of the negative feeling of losing the person. Email Response + Guidance Divine Brother We believe that you are a beautiful pure soul who is little struggling with emotions and maintaining a 'control' over the thoughts inspired by soul (& created by the mind) Yes. As written, our thoughts are inspired by the nature of the soul (the self/being). The soul whose very nature is beautiful, will definitely inspire beautiful thoughts. Mind is only our 'medium'. Now coming to a specific scene - you have a sisterly feeling with someone who works with you. This suggests that you 'definitely' had a relationship (probably a Sibling-Sibling relationship) with that soul in one of your previous lives. That is the reason why you immediately catch that vibrations and thoughts come immediately when you see a person. Isn't it? For example, if you had a bitter relationship with someone in your previous life, then when you meet that soul in even this birth, you will FEEL that vibrations and that can make you feel uneasy in his/her company. This same is true for a soul with whom you had a 'beautiful' relationship. ✤ SOLUTION ✤ How To Control thoughts? Well. The most you CAN do is to " be conscious " of what thoughts are being created by your mind. When you become "conscious" you simply "command" your mind to think right. Here ➜ These videos will help ➜ 1. Put A Full Stop to Your Thoughts : Awakening episode 2. How to Finish Negative Thoughts : Awakening episode 3. ONE Way to Finish Negative Thoughts : Special Talk (PLEASE WATCH ALL GIVEN VIDEOS to benefit yourself with the wisdom in general shared by Sister Shivani) After this, we invite you to go & visit the ★ Welcome Letter for You ★ On Godly World Service Shiv Baba Service Team BKGSU

Many of us have had a bitter childhood memory which still pulls us back to those times or bites our conscience, or bitters our relationship with the known family. So what is right to do? To confess or confront the past? or to forgive, forget, and start a new journey? Ofcourse, our advise here is 'specific-given' to a sister who wrote to us. While in general, we do believe and know that everyone is unique and has a unique story, and thus they must judge their current situation and decide accordingly, what is best to do. Original Email we received in Dec 2020 Om shanti, Someone in my family did something very wrong years back but at that time I was a child & couldn't tell anyone as I was scared. Now I realise how wrong the person did & is living as if he did nothing. Now I want to tell the truth , even though I don't have any proof. But I am scared people might not believe me & more than anything it will hurt everyone in the family. But speaking the truth is the right thing to do. I have 2 choices: 1) Tell the truth to everyone, which may hurt family. 2) To not say anything & live like nothing happened because it is too late to speak. Now I can't decide which one is the right decision to take. Both of them are so difficult: To remain silent feels like I am doing something wrong, AND to speak the truth feels like I'll be hurting people. What should I do? Our Response + Guidance Divine Sister Follow this guidance STEP by STEP in your mind first, and then outside. Read with 'Attention' and then follow your inner feelings. 1. To clean your heart and memory is first priority. So take a plain sheet of paper and write down whatever you remember happened in your childhood. This letter can be subjected to God. Put all your memories to God, as if you are giving all your burden away ... 2. Now go to one of your parents. Mother or father- you choose. Select a time when they are not busy and are ready to listen to you . Calmly tell them everything. Answer their questions which they will ask. Open your heart. 3. Ask them not to have any relationship with that person (whose complaint you just told). But yet dont spread this news to anyone else. Keep it upto you and your parents only. 4. Telling your parents is important so that they know the TRUTH about their child. BUT DO NOT spread this as a news. Our aim is to forget the past incident, and that to happen, one must not curse any soul... ★Forgiving is another thing"... Watch these videos (on FORGIVENESS, by Sister Shivani) ➤ How to FORGIVE someone? (video) ➤ How to RELEASE the PAST? (video) And there are many more videos on the same YT channel which will guide you to live a better and happy life . ✤ Please accept this ➤ Welcome Letter for You (this letter will guide you ahead in Spirituality and support in your life in general) On Godly World Service Shiv Baba Service team BKGSU